No Men Allowed in the Delivery Room
December 01, 2009
 By truuconfessions, DivineCaroline
Just because your husband helped you make the baby, doesn’t mean he should be there to help you HAVE the baby says one doc. Whether or not your husband can tolerate the site of blood, tears, and the inevitable poop that comes along with childbirth, according to an OB/GYN in the UK, your husband needs to stay out of the labor and delivery room! Michael Odent, a childbirth specialist and leading obstetrician in the UK, believes that the father’s presence can lead to his partner needing a caesarean delivery, and even to marriage break-ups and mental illness. “The ideal birth environment involves no men in general. Having been involved for more than fifty years in childbirths in homes and hospitals in France, England, and Africa, the best environment I know for an easy birth is when there is nobody around the woman in labour apart from a silent, low-profile and experienced midwife—and no doctor and no husband, nobody else,” Odent told the Observer. “In this situation, more often than not, the birth is easier and faster than what happens when there are other people around, especially male figures—husbands and doctors.” While we don’t disagree that men tend to slow things down and make natural situations more tedious and annoying (i.e. Costco on Saturday, mowing the lawn, getting the kids ready for school), we have a hard time giving our husbands the green light to sit back and have a cold one (maybe even catch the last half of the game), while we’re bearing the brunt of the job, figuratively and literally. Not to mention, if said husband is in fact the father of said child, wouldn’t he (and you) want him to be there to witness the miracle? Surely, a little poop would not stop someone from taking part in such an incredible and life changing event ... Or ... would it? Anonymous says: “I’m six weeks pregnant with my first ... I’m thirty-seven. Not afraid of the pain of childbirth but more the complete humiliation of it all ... am I alone in thinking breastfeeding is just plain gross? I have only been married six months. My husband and I “hide” when one of us has to do a #2, and now I’m expected to allow him in the delivery room with me when I’m moaning like a cow, bleeding, pooping and farting on the delivery table? Here’s to a great future sex life I’m sure!”
Anonymous says: “I’m going to have my second child any day now and I really really really really don’t want my partner or mother in the delivery room with me at any time during my labor. As I know through the experience of giving birth the first time - my mom thinks she knows everything about childbirth and my husband just irritates me. I am seriously thinking about going into hospital and not telling them I am there until after I have given birth.” Anonymous says: “After giving birth naturally with no drugs, my husband told me he thought I was being whimpy when I broke down after an hour of pushing. I started crying and shaking and said I didn’t want to do it anymore. Thank God the nurse was in the room to calm me down and get me back on track. I’m seriously debating if I should have him in the delivery room with my next baby.” Anonymous says: “Do women generally poop when they give birth vaginally? It seems like I did and my husband was disgusted. Is this normal? I don’t want him in the delivery room the second time around.” Anonymous says: “I would have been totally fine with it if my husband had decided not to be in the delivery room with me. Hell, I didn’t want to be in there myself. When the doc asked if he wanted to cut the cord he said “um, no, I’m good”. Poor thing, he got so much crap for that. When did it become a rule that fathers have to be involved in absolutely every aspect of childbirth? Can handle most it by myself thanks.” Provided by DivineCaroline.com, a website where women like you can read and contribute stories, reviews, and forums. Please visit our bustling community soon.
|
